5 things we should ALWAYS remember to tell ourselves!

I made a very bold and daring decision in my life recently. Its not the kind of thing I usually do. As much as I like to think that I am spontaneous, I'm not. My spontaneity reaches as far as going for drinks in the week with my girlfriends. Along with bold decisions comes criticism. Lots of it! For the most part, people were very supportive, but there were people who thought that I had completely lost my mind. I took the criticism personally and ended up feeling really sorry for myself. This is why I came up with 5 things to tell yourself everyday, not just when you are feeling down.
My hope is that by telling myself these 5 things I will be able to tackle any bad words thrown my way.

1) I Love You!
Why is it easy for us to tell others that we love them, but completely forget to love ourselves? Tell yourself that you love yourself! When you love someone you want only the best for them, you want to always protect them and make them happy! When you love yourself you wont need the approval of others. So love yourself! Tell yourself that you love yourself! And tell yourself that often too.

2) You're beautiful!
Dont wait for someone else to tell you the obvious! You are a woman and you are stunning! The fact that you have stretch marks, cellulite and curves does not take anything away from your beauty and the power you posses as a woman! There really is nothing sexier than a woman that knows her worth and that she is beautiful! Own it, work it and don't believe any-one that tells you otherwise.

3) You're strong!
When you say this, mean it. You ARE strong. You have taken knocks in the past and regardless of how you feel now, you came out on the other side stronger than before. We need to give ourselves more credit for our strength! Regardless of how sheltered your life may be, you get your period every month! That alone should show you just how strong you are.  Period pain is no joke, so every month that you suffer in silence, remember that you are one strong woman!

4) I'm not ok!
It's ok to not be ok! It's ok to admit defeat every now and again. Its ok to cry and get angry. It's not ok however to stay in that funk for more than is necessary. Tell yourself that you are not ok, and then try to deal with it so that you can soon be ok!

5) You deserve this!
And you really do deserve it! Whatever "it" may be. Do things for you! You want to go on holiday? Go for it - you deserve this! You want to learn a new language? Go for it - you deserve this! Follow your dreams and don't let any-one tell you how frivolous they may seem or that they are too big to be achieved! You only have one life, so live it to the fullest. Do things that make you happy, no matter how crazy they may seem. You will have the best stories to tell your kids one day!

5 things we should remember to tell our partners.

I should have probably posted this for Valentine's Day, but with the way things are currently playing out in my life I have decided that now would be the best time.


I've compiled a list of 5 things we should always remember to tell our partners.



1) I Love You.
I'm sure they know that you love them, but don't forget to tell them. There is no better feeling than getting that unexpected text message from your partner just saying: "I love you" or if you're at home, doing your chores and he says, " I just want you to know that I Love you" The gesture doesn't have to be big, it doesn't have to be written in the sky, it just has to be sincere. Don't let your life become so busy that you forget to tell them that you love them.

2) Thank you.
Don't become that person that takes your partner for granted and you do not thank them for the things they do for you. Whether she makes you a cup of coffee, or he picks you up from work, don't forget to say thank you. Those simple words will make your partner feel that they are not being taken for granted and the things they do are being acknowledged!I feel like a random "thank you for all you do for me" can make up for so much wrong you may have done. Try it! I dare you to "forget" her birthday and then the next day go up to her and say: "Babe, thank you, I appreciate you" (I'm lying! DO NOT TRY THIS AT HOME!) Point is, telling your partner that they are appreciated will do wonders for their day! It will do wonders for their week! Never let them forget that they are appreciated.

3) You make me happy.
You guys fight and argue and you say things in the heat of the moment and they make you sad and angry, but they also make you happy! Remember to acknowledge the happy moments. Remember to tell them that they make your heart happy! It will make your partner happy to hear you say they make you happy!

4) You're beautiful.
Or you're handsome for that matter. Every partner be it male or female wants to know that their significant other finds them attractive. Make sure you tell your girlfriend, wife, fiance' etc that you find them beautiful. Don't wait until she is all dressed up and ready to go out to some place fancy. Tell her when she is on her way out to work that you think she looks beautiful. The same thing can be said for the ladies. We are so eager to have the guys tell us we look beautiful, but don't forget that they are human too and they like to hear it too! Tell him he looks handsome. And tell him often. Don't let him forget that he is an attractive male specie!

5) You're my hero.
This one seems silly, but the fact that he watches all these superhero movies should make you realise that he too wants to be a hero! Tell him that! There are things that he does for you that you would not be able to do on your own. He changes the tyres for you, he opens tight jars for you. (Think of all those jams and sauces or pickles you would have had to go without if he didn't open the jar for you!) He makes you feel safe at night, and would kill someone with his bare hands if you were threatened. So tell him that he is your hero or your "rock". Let him know that even though you are a strong independent woman you depend on him too.
This point seems very much directed at the ladies. Guys, this is for you too. There are also women superheros around that we envy - Laura Croft, Cat woman etc. Instead of fighting bad guys we fight the grime and dirt in the bathroom! We might not be able to change tyres or kill someone with our bare hands, (wait, I take that back. Have you seen a jealous girlfriend attack some slut making a move on her boyfriend?) but we would go to the ends of the earth for you,to make sure you are happy. You may be able to survive very well without her, but don't let her feel that way. Tell her that she is your hero and that you look up to her for all she does for you.

So, Warren, this one is for you:
Thank you for all that you do for me, you make my heart happy, I appreciate you and the role you play in my life. You are my handsome hero and I love you!

10 Signs that you're almost 30!

I am 27 years old and have read many articles from different people's perspective on the signs that you are "getting old."
Many of them are funny, because they are so close to being the truth you can only but laugh at it.


Last week I had a late night of drinking with my girlfriends, and this made me realise... I really am getting older. Seeing as though the big 3.0 is creeping up on me, I have decided to make my own list of the tell-tale signs that you are getting older. Let me know how many you can relate too.

1) Getting fat is easy, getting thin afterwards... not so much. This is something I know about all too well. I picked up 25kg's and it took me a year of eating right and exercising to shed it.  I can feel myself slowly picking it up again. That son of bitch just wont leave me alone!

2) Exercise is something we HAVE to do.
Do you remember when you were in Varsity and you were always out and about. Always active and you never really needed to work out? Well it's different now. You want to loose weight or stay fit? You would need to get your ass to the gym or put on your running shoes and hit the road. Thing is, with most of us working a full time job and having kids and husbands exercise is something that needs to be put into our schedule. It is no longer something that "just happens".

 
3) No matter how rich your parents are and how spoilt you were in Varsity, there comes a time when we all need to be responsible adults and get a job. That time is usually now. By now (now being almost 30) you have a full time job that you have probably been working at for a number of years. You have a real job with real problems. No more bitchy girls and shitty remarks, you have deadlines to chase and your bosses ass to kiss. Real problems!
Working at one company for a long period of time is usually a sign of being grown up. Most of us are climbing the corporate ladder and that is our main purpose to stay. That or you're too lazy to send out your cv to new companies as this would mean starting from the bottom all over again.



 4) Have you noticed how fast our money disappears now? I get paid today and by the time all the debit orders have come off and all my accounts have been paid I am close to being broke again! Being an adult costs alot!

5) Another sign I'm getting older are the clothes I wear. I am all for showing cleavage and wearing short skirts and dresses. But thing is, my cupboard no longer ONLY consists of such items. Those skirts are not comfortable, well not for me anyway, as I am always pulling them down, trying not to show my ass to the world. I am now all about comfort. I wear items that look good, but also make me feel comfortable. I don't want to have to suck my stomach in the whole day simply because if I don't want my pants button to shoot off and hit some-one.

6) Gosh, these youngsters that wear those booty shorts. I want so badly to walk up to them and give them a good talking too! Why would you want to wear shorts that show your butt cheeks? Its not cute! Just typing this is making me feel old! Youngsters annoy me now! I cant be around them for too long because they are so chirpy and chatty and they get stupid when they are drunk!
You know you are getting old when the younger generation annoys you.

 
7)  Drinking is not the same. People say this often, because it is the truth! I cant drink all night and then wake up the next day and function like a normal human being! If I drink too much I feel like crap the next day and I usually spend half the day fighting a major hangover! (The hangover usually wins.)I used to be a legend in my day. I could party on Friday and Saturday evenings and still be at church on Sunday morning looking fresh. Maybe I just need more practice? Maybe I feel and look like shit because I am not doing it often enough? Could that be it? Is that like a real thing? What the hell... lets give it a shot! (haha see what I did there?)

8) Marriage and babies everywhere! All my friends are having babies and getting married, and that's like the "in thing" for kids my age. You are doing Facebook completely wrong if you are not posting pictures of your babies or your wedding. (My facebook posts consist mainly of food)
Nowadays my invites consists mainly of kiddies parties, baby showers and weddings. The nice thing about weddings though, is that before the wedding there is usually a huge drunken, sin filled bachelorette party to look forward too. Sadly the same cannot be said about baby showers.

9) Sadly, part of growing up is loosing some friends too. The nice thing though is by now we have sifted through all the B.S and are now left with lifetime friendships. You may have many acquaintances but your list of close friends is usually shorter. That's cool though, because if you won a competition and you were only allowed to take 4 friends with you, the choice wouldn't be too tough! Can you imagine if you had 20 really close friends and you could only take 4 with you? A riot would break out and strikes would happen, people would start vandalising property and it would just be utter chaos. So be thankful your group of close friends is now smaller than when you were a kid.

10) From young we were taught the difference between right and wrong. As we grow up that line is sometimes a little blury. And that's fine, because being all good can be boring. As a youngster you are meant to get up to mischief, you are meant to get locked up in jail for the night for public indecency! (Kidding!!) My point is that, when you are young you do not have to be all good. If you are, you will have no cool stories to tell your kids. When you get older however, like when you turn 27 you will have to start acting a tad more mature! You will now have to think about the consequences and how these choices will impact your future. And anyway, no-one likes to hang out with a 27 year old who cant seem to keep his/her shit together.